My recommendation: Don’t have this conversation at all. You mentioned your daughter’s high school friends held an intervention with her. Just that she is too young, this is the first boy she’s dated and that she spends too much time with him. Encourage her to make new girl friends especially at school, to try everything, even things her boyfriend doesn’t like to do.They told your daughter they didn’t like her boyfriend and suggested she break-up with him. One of my biggest regrets is not discovering who I was and trying new things when I was younger.Any time we say something to her about the relationship we can count on her not being home that night.
She needs to tire or grow out of her boyfriend on her own.Our other friend suggested Jess make sure her daughter does not get pregnant. My daughter just graduated last June, we were so proud of her. Her boyfriend has an abusive father in another state and a drug addict mother who just got out of prison, he has been living with grandparents. Anyway, we said hell no he cant live with us, so my daughter basically ran away with him for the night which they spent behind a church. For a while she would spend her time at work and with her boyfriend then come home at pm. He also got a ticket for driving without a liscence, my car, and ran into the back of someone.The alternative is that she will choose him over you because she will defend her choice through thick and thin if opposed.
Most of us have been there, gritting our teeth and praying for the day when SHE finally realises that he may be more work than she wants.
They plan on telling her she is too good for him, she’s wasting her time and he’s a loser.
Her question for me was when should this conversation take place.
Grit your teeth and show her that you are prepared to trust her choices and will be there to catch her. My father did the same thing and I ran off with the guy.
I realize now that my father was completely right, but at the time I was young and dumb.
We checked the internet and learned that this boy has been arested 5 times in the last year.